I'm not really sure where I'm going with this blog. so bare with me dear reader. My minds a whirl and I write to clear my thoughts. Enjoy the read, but I'm just thinking here.
While at a local Starbucks, I (and anyone else in the little coffee house) over heard two girls talking shop. They both are exotic-dancers, and they were going into detail about customers. Customers and how they all fit into certain categories.
Trying hard not to listen, but the volume of their voices makes it very difficult, so when they mentioned "the "custy" who just wants to be your "friend"." I couldn't help myself, I started listening for real, knowing full well I fit in this category.
It seems "custy's" who want to be a friend are easy marks, and thought of as a kind of a loser. "It's pathetically simple to lie to them and get them to buy almost anything a girl might want if she hints at in the right way." This got me to thinking, as I always do when given a different insight to the way I see things, and the way others do.
It is true, I fit into the make friends with the girls category, but not for the same reasons others may do it. I like to make friends if I can, so that she will feel more comfortable with me and relax, which in turn helps me to relax. It's all about the comfort with me, if I can make you happy, great. Or if your sad and feeling sort of out of it, and I am able to help you forget your troubles for a little while, or better yet make you laugh-out-loud. Just by listening, and in effect help you when you didn't ask for it, but needed it just the same. Well, that's what I do. This has helped me to become a real friend with my share of dancers, but if you met me outside a club I would still treat you the same way. So, yeah I'm a loser! I would rather be a friend to someone in truth, rather than lie and play myself false just to fit in. Okay, maybe I'm not the type these two girls were talking about, but I hate the idea that is how I'm viewed. I think of myself as being a different kind of customer, but maybe that is only in my head. Knowing the women I have met through the years, who have worked at clubs, and the 4 that are still currently working in them. I do know I'm very lucky to call each and every one of them my friend. Two of them most of all (N & S). At least I know the friends I've made are true, so what if they strip. To me people are people. I just happen to have met these friends of mine at their work, and my recreation.
I do wish I could have gotten a better look at the girls, they sounded kind of on the young side, I just hope life won't always seem so cynical to them. Who knows maybe they just need... a friend. ;) lol
