Recently I've been reading blogs, and articles dealing with customers of strippers who take things to far in their need to get closer to the girl in the high heeled shoes, and who dances around a pole. It saddens me, to know there are guys that don't respect the boundaries of personal space. I understand the idea of wanting to be friends with the girls. Hey I'm as guilty as the next guy when it comes to wanting to be friends, but I understand it is a business first. We are their customer("Custy"). While at their work, we're fun to hang and talk with, but we're not truly a friend to these women. So for some of these other guys to take it upon themselves to go to a dancer's home, and go to their job each and every time they work is just wrong. UNLESS INVITED, we should not assume we are welcome to these girls outside lives.
Personally, I've been lucky enough to have made real friends with some of the ladies who dance for a living, and have been INVITED to join in activities outside the club. Friends do that. :) Knowing the boundaries, and excepting them, has earned me a trust that grows more and more. It is a slow thing, but I'm not in a rush.:-D
Having these friends, makes me happy, it truly does. I think they in turn find themselves very relieved to have someone like me as their friend, because the boundaries are respected by both parties. Girls have a friend/customer they can relax there guard a bit with, and you have the pleasure of truly getting to know these women.
I know to most guys, getting closer means sex, or at least dating, but that really should be left to singles bars, and the outside world, where both parties are on equal social footing. Problem is most guys think that because a woman is talking to them, she is interested in them romantically. Ok, granted in some cases this is true enough, but in a strip club your the ATM, a means to an end. If you are INVITED to do, or share more of a dancers private life...GREAT!! If not, have fun cuddling and drinking with your favorite (s). Fact of the matter is if you show you have a brain, you are more apt to have the dancer notice you the person, instead of just a customer. Smart is sexy. Sadly, dumb and bubbly will catch the eye faster, I liken it to a red balloon at a sale. Eye catching, and full of air, if you rub it...POP goes the fantasy. Sorry got a little off track. Hey it happens. GRIN!! Anyway the point I'm trying to convey here is just have a good time, but ask the dancer, each dancer you are entertained by what she is comfortable with. Each woman feels different about what is and is not comfortable, it is no different in a strip club. You have the advantage of seeing them naked and trying to please you, so that more money is spent on them, their job, remember. Your the client in the club, outside the club your just another guy. If you were a jerk in the club, you have shown your hand, why should she bother giving you the time of day. Lecture over, sorry about that. I just get so upset at the audacity of some people. I treasure the friendships I've made very, very much, and I hate that, because some people can't respect the boundaries, my friends, and friendships take a hit to the trust that has been built up. I want my friends to feel safe, so please guys stop pushing your desires,
