Hi there reader's of my blog. Time to write another part of my friend and her special someone. When I left off, we were close to Valentines day. So I will continue from Valentines Day. :-D More this is the story of how it almost ended before it really began. Fate and the fact I listen, and the fact you have to be sad before you can be glad got them through.
Valentines Day! A time when flowers, and candy are purchased by the ton. Weddings, dates, confessions of a secret love and, for some anniversary's of one kind or another. A day of love and happiness right? Well in most cases yes, but not for my friend. :( Like I said before, at this time they are in a long distance relationship. A very new and undefined relationship.
Before I get into Valentines Day, let me give you a little back ground on my friend. :)
My friend has many many suitors, she is a very popular girl. Why because she likes men, let me repeat that last part she really likes men. They make her happy just being around her, often the center of there attention, but they are more of an amusement to her. Not saying she plays with their emotions or anything, like that she just likes to have fun. Poker, drinks, or sex it's all good because she never really lets anyone get that close to her. You know to the real woman behind the fun time girl. Then, she meets her Mr. Right. All of a sudden she is the one chasing the guy, and she hates this fact. Normally she is the pursued, the one in control of a relationship so she can end it at any given time. For her it is easier to drop and run, than to stick it out and risk the pain of being rejected her self. My friend truly would like to find love some day, but is pretty sure it is never going to happen. She would love to love, but is very afraid to trust enough in another person to tear down her mental walls to her heart. Okay, now you got an idea, where my friend is mentally, before meeting Mr. Right.
The Special guy has gone home, another state entirely. Okay, that is not so bad there is always the phone, and maybe he really isn't the one after all. As Mr. Right is getting his affairs in order, and is preparing to move closer to his son, who is the reason he was in town to begin with. My friend starts making up excuses to her self that she is not really falling for the guy. See defenses are starting to go up, she has totally fallen for him, but at this time she is resiting. Scared to death she will get hurt. Being busy he has not called her, in the last 48hrs, or responded to her texts of Happy V-DAY. Nothing! Having bad signal reception, or just plain being on the go, getting ready to move, never is allowed to enter her mind. Walls are going up. She would not listen to any typ of excuse, she was preparing herself to let him go. Going so far as to make a date with another (guy)friend of hers on Valentines Day at her place. One who confessed his love of her, with tears in his eyes and a promise to make this Valentines day a special one. This was probably the closest she has come to truly saying good bye to love. Lucky for both of them, fate, and I had a hand in making things okay.
For starters, her friend who confessed his love for her, has the unfortunate problem of having no chemistry with my friend. He has been there for her in the past, but only as kind of that rebound guy, you know someone to have meaningless fun with but not much else.:-/ She also had yours truly who wouldn't let her lose something real, no matter what the excuse. I could hear she was just scared of caring, and not being cared for in return. The saving grace at the time was when her friend(of no Chemistry), went out to get some smokes or something, but never came back. Leaving my friend to much time to doubt, doubt her self and men in general. No word from her Mr. Right or her other friend. So she calls me! I listened to all her woes of that night reassuring her as best I could, but not taking sides one way or the other until she was through venting. She finally decided to get drunk, and watch movies and say fuck em all!! Not in the mood to listen to any type of advice, I took the safe ground. I made her think of being safe, like make sure she is home before drinking, keep me in the loop, let me know when she is going to sleep. That sort of thing, just to keep her safe enough to wake with a bad head maybe, but alive and well the next day, and more able to listen to any type of advice.
The next day arrives, I get a text thanking me for listening, and that her boy called. She is very happy now, Mr. Right called and explained falling asleep, and just being so busy he wasn't even sure what day it was. All that really didn't matter, just that he called and she felt that tingle again. Now she knew for certain she was in love with this man. Still not sure if Mr. Right is in the same frame of mind, but now she has resigned to the fact she is very much in love. Her other friend did talk to her a couple of days later, but he really blew it. He and she have not really been the same ever sense. Valentines day was a day of raw emotions for my friend, but I made her see it as a possitive, giving her clairty, and letting her see that she is ok. Also to let her see who, and what is important to her happiness.
The next part of this story will be much happier, but I thought it important for the uncertain feelings my friend was having in the early stages of her and her guys budding relationship be told. LOVE is a precious thing, like a diamond it takes patience, understanding, and most of all communication to make it work. Don't worry My friend is well on the way to being very happy for a long time....
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