Why I stopped

This blog is the true story of why I stopped going to strip clubs. The first part I will tell you my routine and what it is I would do at the strip club. 2nd I will tell you what was said to make me go away.


Last year at this time was the first time I had stepped foot inside a strip club of any kind in about 5-6yrs. I had stopped going for several reasons. 1. One of the girls I really liked stopped coming in as often. She had a very good reason, being pregnant and all :-). 2. My job was taking me away to another state soon. See I always went to Stars Cabaret in Beaverton, it takes awhile to build up a re'pore with anything, clubs included. 3rd. The biggest reason of all is the criticism I received while there. I'll explain as this blog proceeds, but I do hope when you are done reading dear reader you will comment. Was the complaint justified on there part?

The following is the way I used to do the club thing, way back when. I would come into the club to spend money, and have a good time. One of the first things I would do is find a table, take off my jacket (if wearing one) and sit down to let my eyes get adjusted to the darkness always found with in a strip club. As I am seated, I kind of let my senses talk to me. You know getting the feel for the atmosphere of the club that day. You know?
I used to get iced-tea all the time, so when my tea would arrive. I'd proceed to the "rack", and take a seat. I like to kind of do the meet and greet of all the dancers up here. I'd sit through an entire rotation, of the girls on that stage before sitting or getting any dances with them.
While at the stage, the following things would take place. 1. On the first song I would tip 2dollars, the 2nd I would tip 3dollars, more if the dance was very good. 2. as I sat, the girls would ask if I wanted to get a dance, I would decline, in this way "Not at this time, I am sitting through the rotation first, but after who knows it's a possibility." I know now that most girls stop listening, as soon as a negative answer is given. Only natural, guys lie about getting a dance all the time, I'm sure. So, why wait for the explanation, right? 3rd I have made up my mind to who I will, and who I will not be entertained by that night. I make introductions if you don't already know me and invite you to sit at my table.

Once at the table I like to explain (to the dancer) how I like to do the dance bit. How,I like to wait for the girl to finish with a set at the rack then proceed to the "Champagne room" buying a minimum of 5dances. For me I think this is fair to all parties. The dancer is getting the time she needs to do the dances, and get ready with any personal business she may have to do in the dressing/bathroom. I usually have my fun with 4or5 girls total on these nights. I thought I was doing the right thing by me and the club. Apparently, I was mistaken. More on that later.

See, once I've sat threw the rotation of girls I don't really go back to the rack anymore. I am in the couch/table dance mode, I don't feel the need to be up there when I can see everything from where I am seated, plus I don't want to give a girl a false hope that more money is coming her way. I know for a fact if a guy is buying dances the other girls are watching you. See Couch/table dances equals money, and money is like blood in the water to the sharks(girls) of the strip club, it is only natural.
Anyway, I am sitting at my table sipping at my tea, watching the stages, kind of getting ready to leave, because, only one of the five girls i have been talking with this night is still here and she is getting ready to leave too. I like to give all the girls a hug good night and to thank them for a fun night. It is how I would end my night. So, a shift change has occurred during my wait. One of the waitresses, keeps coming over and asking if I would like anything else. The girl who had just finished her set, came over to my table still in a state of undress, and asked me "Did you enjoy the show?" "Are you just going to sit there all night, watching and not paying?" I was going to tell her I have been spending money all night, and I was just waiting for my waitress to come back with my ones, and I was leaving anyway, just staying long enough to say goodbye to the girl with whom I had been entertained, then i was going to leave. Instead, as i stood up I noticed i was getting an accusatory look from the new Manager on the floor, and a couple of bouncers, and different girls and customers alike. As if, that wasn't bad enough, the girl who I had been waiting for came out and sided with the first dancer. Saying, "yeah how come you don't come to the stage and drop a few dollars down, you have the money, you have been buying dances all night." No sooner had the words escaped her lips, than she saw her mistake. It was like watching it all in slow motion. As the dancer I had been waiting for spoke the word "night", the Manager looked like "oh shit, a VIP just got embarrassed. The first girl from the stage looked at her friend with the same type of look like, but with the added he spent money all day...on dances? CRAP! While the girl (who was new to me this night anyway)who was a companion for that night gave a look like her favorite pair of shoes had just been run over by a truck. All of this taking place in the blink of an eye. So instead of explaining myself, because I thought why should I, So, I stood up. As
I stood, I reached into my pocket, put a five dollar bill on the table in front of the first dancer. Saying "I am sorry that spending over a thousand dollars in here tonight is to little a sum, to make you and the rest of the club feel comfortable. Have no fear I will leave now and never bother your sensibilities again." "Funny thing is I thought of getting a set of dances from you, but I think your standards might be a tad to high for me." "Here I am thinking I was one of the good customers. A true VIP." "I do think you should ask some of your fellow dancers( I dropped a few names) about me. I think you will find you made a bad choice tonight."

It is true I don't always spend a 1000 plus, I averaged around 400 or so most nights, but the routine is the same. It just goes to show you, it is not what you have done, in the past that is important to people. It is, what have you done for me lately. There are exceptions to the rule of course. Like my true friends who work at the club. Once they heard about the encounter, anger was the most shared emotion by them, and disappointment that I was not coming back. Who knows maybe it was partly my fault, for watching with out tipping, but the waitress had not gotten back with my ones yet and all I had in small bills was that five. Oh well!! It's in the past. I am once again going to a strip club (Dolphin 2), but only because of friend from my past is still working. I have changed my routine allot and I have avowed to never spend money like I did in the past at these clubs,(except on special occasions) lesson learned. I have made at least two additional friends sense coming back to clubs, but I am not the free spender I once was. I guess because I have the unique fortune to have strippers who don't so much care about the money they get from me, but with having my company. So I am getting the trust back but it is a slow thing.

I am not sure why I wrote this blog. Maybe I just wanted to put out the word to dancer and customer alike. Be aware of your actions, and words they can really ruin a good time. Please, write your thoughts after reading this blog. I Thank-You.